Think about the the ways in which greater confidence could be useful to you

Make a list of five most important confidence aims.

• Question  1: Why is this such an important aim?
• Question 2: What makes achieveing this aim difficult at the moment?
• Question 3: What strengths do you have to help achieve this aim?
• QUestion 4: What direct action can you start taking to work towards this aim?
  

1. Think posititively.Break teh habit of putting yourself and everything else down. When you catch yourself thinkg negatively, stop it.
2. Learn to see problem as challenges that can be overcome. Remember: you always have options.
3. Never say never again. Everything is possible.
4. If you make a mistake, don't dwell on it. Learn what you can from it and move on.
5. Cut big problems down to size. Think of one thing you can do today to improve a situation. Focus all your energy on achieving it.
6. Tackle challenges head-on. Procrastination only delays things, it doesn't solve them.
7. Spend at least a minute every day contemplating all the things you have in your life to be greatful for.
8. Ask yourself empowering questions. In the midst of a crisis, for example, dont' ask why you got into this mess; ask how can you improve it.
9. Do what you can to minimise stressful situations. If you face a mad rush in the mornings, for example, get up earlier, have your clothes and paperwork ready.
10. Look for at least one reason a day to laugh. Research shows laughter releases feel-good chemicals in the brain.

1. Show interested in the other person.
2. Be curious and use questions to find out more about the other person and common ground.
   
3. Find out what interest you about the other person. Consider the other person's beliefs and experiences.
4. Suspend judgement - focus on what they are saying rather than your analysis of it.
5. Use your physiology to match their body language and behaviour. This is one of the powerful skill and fastest ways to build rapport with another person.